As part of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, we’re highlighting teens who are helping lead real conversations about dating, respect, and boundaries in their schools.
Jackie Fuller, a junior at Lawrence High School, serves as one of Younity’s Peer Educators. We asked Jackie to share her perspective on what healthy relationships look like, what red flags teens often miss, and why peer-to-peer conversations matter.
What does a healthy relationship look like to you?
A healthy relationship is built on respect, trust, and open communication. Both people should feel safe being themselves without fear of judgment, pressure, or control. Honesty, support, and respect for boundaries should be the standard.
What’s one red flag in teen dating relationships that people your age don’t always recognize?
One red flag that often gets overlooked is control disguised as care. For instance, a partner constantly checking your location, deciding who you can talk to, or getting upset when you spend time with others. It can feel flattering at first, but it’s actually about control, not concern.
Why do you think it can be hard for teens to speak up when something doesn’t feel right?
Teens may fear being judged, not believed, or labeled as “dramatic.”
What made you want to become a Peer Educator?
I believe teens are more likely to trust people their own age. I wanted to help create conversations around relationships that are honest and relatable, especially on topics that aren’t always openly discussed.
What’s one thing you’ve learned since becoming a Peer Educator that you wish more teens knew?
Unhealthy relationships don’t always look extreme or obvious at first. Small behaviors, like guilt-tripping or jealousy, can slowly escalate into danger.
If you could share one message with other teens for Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, what would it be?
Your feelings are valid, and you deserve a relationship that makes you feel safe, respected, and supported. Love shouldn’t hurt or make you feel insecure. It should make you feel warm and seen.
